3 Aspects of Evolution and Love
Was the mother-child bond “hijacked” to create romantic love?
Love is a powerful and a complex emotion. Science has failed to define it. Thus, art has become the language of love. Poets, Musicians, painters, writers, dancers and all are attempting to interpret this feeling, which is still a mystery of human brain. Its’ uniqueness to individuals has made this feeling, universal.
Do you love me?This is a typical question asked by each and every lover in the world. Then, another quesion comes, ” Tell me how much you love me? In fact, whenever, we get this question, we feel confused and go blank minded. No clear answer comes out of our mouth. As our mind is filled with thousands of expressions, we feel like stammering. How can I explain?; What do you think? Why cannot you explain this feeling of love? Is it because you are so much in love with your partner or because you are an emotional fool? Actually, there is a reason; a very strong scientific reason which proves that we are badly trapped in the snare of evolution and which reveals that still there are dark secrets drawn in human brain including limbic system.
Love begins with physical attraction. When you see a attractive face or a body , you lighten up, you feel happy and a little uncomfortable as well. There, the journey begins. Then, the desire moves onto the next stage of romantic love. Thus, the limbic system of our body starts to pump out the feel-good chemical Dopamine and the hormone Oxycontin, which binds people together. Meanwhile, some important areas in prefrontal cortex are deactivated and the rationality suppressed. You are now insanely in love. Now, you need to spend more time with your lover. You miss him or her a lot. Why? Because, evolution has a master plan for you.
You are supposed to have this beautiful feeling until pregnancy happens. After the pregnancy, you do not feel like sticking together as before; feelings are not as strong as before. Nevertheless, you do not feel like walking away as well. After few months, the dopamine levels normalise and still there is a feeling of closeness, helped along by more Oxycontin; Signs for the beginning of the companionship period.
In addition, separation from a loved one makes us sad. So, we are staying together to avoid that pain. Why? because parental separation can create insecurity for the offspring. Thus, love seems to be a part of an imaginable plan.
With the birth of a child, parents tend to pay more attention to the baby, rather than to themselves. Generally, parents are unlikely to engage in a sexual intercourse, within next few months after the child birth. It happens, in order to ensure the child’s protection. (In many primates today, a mother with a dependent infant is unavailable to mate until her infant is weaned. To get access to her, a male would first have to kill her child. This sort of targeted infanticide goes on in many species, including gorillas, monkeys and dolphins.) ( http://www.bbc.com/earth/story/20160212-the-unexpected-origin-of-love)
Parental sacrifice comes up with this phenomenon in evolution. As an example, think of a natural disaster. Whenever a natural disaster happens, every parent attempts to protect the child before themselves. They are ready to sacrifice their life for the survival of the child. What is the reason? As we believe, we all are selfish, but what goes beyond that selfishness? It is the parental love, which plays a major role in reproductive success. In the process of evolution, our brain has wired to ensure the survival of our species on earth. Therefore, unknowingly we are bound to protect the future generation.
When it comes to maternal love, evolution has a separate plan for it. Mother- child bond is something undeniable. Usually, woman is preferred to have a family with one man. At the same time, mother tends to hold the baby in her arms, rather than keep it on back and she has the ability to easily understand the expressions of the child, especially the negative expressions. Similarly, women comes with the power of making friends easily and have good relationships with a society. In fact, all of these qualities are inherited to her, to protect the offspring at her best.
Fatherly love contributes the same way, but a little less in this process of reproductive success.Fathers are more protective and attentive towards their children. Child’s cry or a smile can make father does things at any cost. They are with the physical power to protect the child and has the ability to make child aware of the society. So, that child himself learns to survive in the world. Studies have found that when an infant is first born, males will experience decreased testosterone levels, making them less likely to be abusive or indifferent to his female partner. Increased levels of investment of father’s qualities, when a child is first born may be due to the fact that males want to protect their genes and assure the reproductive success of their offspring in order for their genes to be spread.
We have heard the saying” Blood is thicker than water”. It is correct more than we thought. People are likely to care for their relations than the rest of the society. As, blood relatives share the same genes, they need to ensure the survival of their blood line. Thus, they ensure the protection of relatives. It seems that every love feeling we encounters has an evolutionary history.
However , love seems to be a premeditated magic of evolution, which subtly deceive human beings and ensure the existence of life on earth. Nonetheless, this is what we have found. What about the rest? Is love really blind? Are we trapped? What about the gaps and grey areas? The light is still to be found.